How to Make Friends as an Adult
Building friendships as an adult can feel challenging. Unlike childhood or school years, opportunities to meet people naturally can be fewer. Still, forming meaningful connections later in life is possible with the right mindset and strategies. Here are some practical ways to make and maintain friendships as an adult.
Shift Your Mindset
It’s normal to feel that making friends should “just happen,” but in adulthood, friendships often require intentional effort. Viewing it as an ongoing process rather than a one-time task can help reduce pressure.
Be open to new experiences, even if they feel outside your comfort zone.
Remind yourself that many other adults are also looking for genuine connections.
Let go of the idea that friendships need to look like they did in childhood.
Seek Out Shared Interests
Common ground makes conversations flow more naturally and provides a foundation for connection.
Join clubs, classes, or workshops related to your hobbies.
Attend community events, lectures, or book groups.
Explore volunteer opportunities where people are motivated by similar values.
Use Your Everyday Spaces
You don’t always need to go far to meet potential friends. Everyday environments can be great places to connect.
Chat with colleagues outside of work projects.
Get to know neighbors by joining local groups or hosting small gatherings.
Strike up conversations at the gym, coffee shop, or dog park.
Leverage Technology Thoughtfully
Digital platforms can be powerful tools for connection if used with intention.
Try apps or websites designed for making friends.
Join online communities related to your interests, then look for ways to transition connections offline.
Stay connected with old friends through regular virtual catch-ups and makes sure to plan the next one every time you get together!
Practice Social Skills
Even small efforts can make a big difference when forming new bonds.
Ask open-ended questions and show genuine curiosity.
Practice active listening instead of planning your next response.
Be consistent—follow up after meeting someone new to show interest.
Invest in Relationships Over Time
Friendship deepens through shared experiences and consistency. Treat it as something to nurture.
Schedule regular meetups or check-ins.
Offer support during both good times and challenges.
Be patient—deep trust and closeness take time to grow.
So if You Want More People in Your World . . .
. . . you’ve got to get active. Making friends as an adult requires intention, openness, and patience. By seeking shared interests, using everyday opportunities, and nurturing relationships consistently, it’s possible to build a strong social circle. Friendships made later in life can be just as meaningful—sometimes even more so—than those formed earlier on.
